Raise your hand if you’ve gotten these questions at family gatherings: When are you getting married? How many kids do you want? Why haven’t you started a family?
It’s definitely annoying, but it pales in comparison to what previous generations had to go through. In their quest to become adults, young women were expected to finish high school, possibly go to college, get married, have children, and raise their families. Motherhood was less of a choice and more of a requirement.
Feminism had several impactful movements over the past couple of centuries, but the expectations of marriage and motherhood survived them all, until now.
As of 2018, birth rates hit a new low and nearly 40% of U.S. adults age 18-49 don’t want to have children. With the general instability of the world, it’s not a shock that people are thinking twice before having kids. Some of the most popular reasons this is happening are: financial issues, more people going to college (which means they get married later), more women choosing to advance their careers instead of having children, and the incredibly high cost of childcare.
All of this makes sense, but what if the answer is actually much simpler? What if the Millennial and Gen Z adults just want to be happy (and that doesn’t necessarily include parenthood)? For us, happiness looks like career success, moving out of our parents’ house, financial stability, and so on.
When it comes to living more fulfilled lives, single, childless women are happier and live longer than married moms. But, do you know who benefits from marriage? Men. In the most anticlimactic plot twist ever, married men earn more money and live longer, happier lives than single men. (Side Note: There are tons of other factors that could impact lifespans, so take this with a grain of salt.)
These changing attitudes toward parenthood make birth control and sex education even more important. Taking control of your reproductive health gives you the freedom to chart your own course and make more informed decisions about your future. Make sure to check out our YouTube channel for more educational videos on birth control and other important topics.
Natasha Davis, Pill Club Copywriter